Common Questions

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Questions & Answers for Kids Discovering Parental Influence Issues

You might notice that you used to feel differently about one of your parents, but now you feel distant or upset when you think about spending time with them. You might hear negative things about that parent from others or notice that you're not allowed to talk about them.
It's important to know that it's not your fault. Sometimes adults can say things or act in ways that make you feel confused or hurt. Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to talk about them with someone you trust.
Start by talking to that parent openly about how you feel. Let them know you want to spend more time together and ask them about their feelings too. It might take time, but building trust and communication can help strengthen your relationship.
You can talk to a trusted adult, like another family member, a teacher, or a counselor. They can listen to you without judgment and help you figure out how to navigate your feelings and relationships.
Yes, absolutely. Rebuilding trust and understanding takes time, but with patience and open communication, relationships can heal. It's important to remember that both parents love you, even if they have disagreements.
It's normal to feel conflicted or guilty. Remember that your feelings were influenced by what you were told or saw. Apologizing and talking honestly with your parent about how you feel can be a good first step towards healing.
Trust your own feelings and experiences. If someone says negative things about a parent, try to find out for yourself what that parent is really like. Keep open lines of communication with both parents and talk about your feelings if something doesn't seem right.
Understanding why parents act a certain way can be complex and may take time. Remember that adults sometimes have their own struggles and emotions that can affect their behavior. Focus on taking care of yourself and building healthy relationships.
Absolutely! You have the right to love and care about both of your parents. Your feelings are valid and important. It's okay to have complicated feelings, and loving both parents is natural, even if things have been difficult.